"The connections between and among women are the most feared, the most problematic, and the most potentially transforming force on the planet."
"Women have been driven mad, “gaslighted”, for centuries by the refutation of our experience and our instincts in a culture which validates only male experience. The truth of our bodies and our minds has been mystified to us. We therefore have primary obligation to each other: not to undermine each other’s sense of reality for the sake of expediency; not to gaslight each other."
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Source: Adrienne Rich (1995). “On Lies, Secrets, and Silence: Selected Prose 1966-1978”, p.44, W. W. Norton & Company
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