"Learning is a result of listening, which in turn leads to even better listening and attentiveness to the other person. In other words, to learn from the child, we must have empathy, and empathy grows as we learn."
"I sincerely believe that we not only have the right to know what is good and what is evil; we have the duty to acquire that knowledge if we hope to assume responsibility for our own lives and those of our children. Only by knowing the truth can we be set free."
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Source: Alice Miller (2002). “The Truth Will Set You Free: Overcoming Emotional Blindness and Finding Your True Adult Self”, p.9, Basic Books
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