"There comes a point where we need to stop just pulling people out of the river. We need to go upstream and find out why they're falling in."
"Forgiving and being reconciled to our enemies or our loved ones are not about pretending that things are other than they are. It is not about patting one another on the back and turning a blind eye to the wrong. True reconciliation exposes the awfulness, the abuse, the hurt, the truth. It could even sometimes make things worse. It is a risky undertaking but in the end it is worthwhile, because in the end only an honest confrontation with reality can bring real healing. Superficial reconciliation can bring only superficial healing."
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Source: Desmond Tutu (2011). “God Has A Dream: A Vision of Hope for Our Times”, p.141, Random House
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