"Nobody's going to do your life for you. You have to do it yourself, whether you're rich or poor, out of money or raking it in, the beneficiary of ridiculous fortune or terrible injustice. And you have to do it no matter what is true. No matter what is hard. No matter what unjust, sad, sucky things befall you. Self-pity is a dead-end road. You make the choice to drive down it. It's up to you to decide to stay parked there or to turn around and drive out."
About Cheryl Strayed
Cheryl Strayed — Life and Legacy
Cheryl Strayed is an acclaimed author and speaker, best known for her memoir 'Wild', which chronicles her transformative journey along the Pacific Crest Trail after experiencing profound personal loss. Strayed's writing delves deeply into the complexities of human emotions, particularly love and resilience, as she navigates the challenges of grief and self-discovery. Her quotes often reflect her belief that embracing vulnerability is essential for growth. For instance, she asserts that 'the place where you are right now is vital', encouraging readers to acknowledge their current circumstances as part of their healing journey. This perspective challenges the notion that one must always be strong or heroic; instead, she emphasizes the beauty in everyday courage. Strayed's insights into love reveal its dual nature, encompassing both joy and pain. She articulates that 'you don’t have to be a hero', suggesting that true strength lies in authenticity and the willingness to confront one's fears. Her work resonates with many, as it captures the rawness of human experience and the transformative power of facing life's challenges head-on. Today, Cheryl Strayed's quotes continue to inspire individuals grappling with their own struggles, offering a sense of connection and understanding. Her ability to articulate the intricacies of love and resilience makes her voice both relevant and impactful in contemporary discussions about personal growth and healing.
Quote collection
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"You don't have to get a job that makes others feel comfortable about what they perceive as your success. You don't have to explain what your plan to do with your life. You don't have to justify your education by demonstrating its financial rewards. You don't have to maintain an impeccable credit score. Anyone who expects you to do any of those things has no sense of history of economics or science or the arts."
"You will learn a lot about yourself if you stretch in the direction of goodness, of bigness, of kindness, of forgiveness, of emotional bravery. Be a warrior for love."
"What if I was never redeemed? What if I already was?"
"Don't surrender all your joy for an idea you used to have about yourself that isn't true anymore."
"Whatever happens to you belongs to you. Make it yours. Feed it to yourself even if it feels impossible to swallow. Let it nurture you, because it will."
"You cannot convince people to love you. This is an absolute rule. No one will ever give you love because you want him or her to give it. Real love moves freely in both directions. Don’t waste your time on anything else."
"The useless days will add up to something. The shitty waitressing jobs. The hours writing in your journal. The long meandering walks. The hours reading poetry and story collections and novels and dead people’s diaries and wondering about sex and God and whether you should shave under your arms or not. These things are your becoming."
"I knew that if I allowed fear to overtake me, my journey was doomed. Fear, to a great extent, is born of a story we tell ourselves, and so I chose to tell myself a different story from the one women are told. I decided I was safe. I was strong. I was brave. Nothing could vanquish me."
"If someone is being unkind or petty or jealous or distant or weird, you don't have to take it in. You don't have to turn it into a big psychodrama about your worth. That behavior so often is not even about you. Don't own other people's crap."
"The story of human intimacy is one of constantly allowing ourselves to see those we love most deeply in a new, more fractured light. Look hard. Risk that."
"It had nothing to do with gear or footwear or the backpacking fads or philosophies of any particular era or even with getting from point A to point B. It had to do with how it felt to be in the wild. With what it was like to walk for miles with no reason other than to witness the accumulation of trees and meadows, mountains and deserts, streams and rocks, rivers and grasses, sunrises and sunsets. The experience was powerful and fundamental. It seemed to me that it had always felt like this to be a human in the wild, and as long as the wild existed it would always feel this way."
"Nobody will protect you from your suffering. You can't cry it away or eat it away or starve it away or walk it away or punch it away or even therapy it away. It's just there, and you have to survive it. You have to endure it. You have to live through it and love it and move on and be better for it and run as far as you can in the direction of your best and happiest dreams across the bridge that was built by your own desire to heal."
"You have to say I am forgiven again and again until it becomes the story you believe about yourself."
"Real love moves freely in both directions. Don't waste your time on anything else."
"That my complicated life could be made so simple was astounding."
"Your assumptions about the lives of others are in direct relation to your naïve pomposity. Many people you believe to be rich are not rich. Many people you think have it easy worked hard for what they got. Many people who seem to be gliding right along have suffered and are suffering. Many people who appear to you to be old and stupidly saddled down with kids and cars and houses were once every bit as hip and pompous as you."
"Be about ten times more magnanimous than you believe yourself capable of. Your life will be a hundred times better for it."
"Most things will be okay eventually, but not everything will be. Sometimes you'll put up a good fight and lose. Sometimes you'll hold on really hard and realize there is no choice but to let go. Acceptance is a small, quiet room."
"A lot of artists give up because it's just too damn hard to go on making art in a culture that by and large does not support its artists. But the people who don't give up are the people who find a way to believe in abundance rather than scarcity. They've taken into their hearts the idea that there is enough for all of us, that success will manifest itself in different ways for different sorts of artists, that keeping the faith is more important than cashing the check, that being genuinely happy for someone else who got something you hope to get makes you genuinely happier too."