"Why prove to a man he is wrong? Is that going to make him like you? Why not let him save face? He didn't ask for your opinion. He didn't want it. Why argue with him? You can't win an argument, because if you lose, you lose it; and if you win it, you lose it. Why? You will feel fine. But what about him? You have made him feel inferior, you hurt his pride, insult his intelligence, his judgment, and his self-respect, and he'll resent your triumph. That will make him strike back, but it will never make him want to change his mind. A man convinced against his will is of the same opinion still."
Dale Carnegie
Author, Speaker
Dale Carnegie was a pioneering author and lecturer known for his work on personal development and effective communication, particularly through 'How to Win Friends and Influence People.'
- Born
- November 24, 1888
- Died
- November 1, 1955
- Quotes
- 401
- Rank
- #322
Quote collection
Dale Carnegie quotes (page 5 of 21)
401 quotes — follow a thought to its full quote page.
"Many people think that if they were only in some other place, or had some other job, they would be happy. Well, that is doubtful. So get as much happiness out of what you are doing as you can and don't put off being happy until some future date."
"There are four ways, and only four ways, in which we have contact with the world. We are evaluated and classified by these four contacts: what we do, how we look, what we say, and how we say it."
"This is the only chance you will ever have on earth with this exciting adventure called life. So why not plan it, and try to live it as richly, as happily as possible?"
"Only the prepared speaker deserves to be confident."
"In talking with people, don't begin by discussing the things on which you differ. Begin by emphasizing - and keep on emphasizing - the things on which you agree. Keep emphasizing, if possible, that you are both striving for the same end and that your only difference is one of method and not of purpose."
"The words "Think and Thank" are inscribed in many of the Cromwellian churches of England. These words ought to be inscribed in our hearts, too: "Think and Thank". Think of all we have to be grateful for, and thank God for all our boons and bounties."
"We all have possibilities we don't know about. We can do things we don't even dream we can do."
"Nobody is more persuasive than a good listener"
"One of the most tragic things I know about human nature is that all of us tend to put off living."
"If you want to know how to make people shun you and laugh at you behind your back and even despise you, here is the recipe: Never listen to anyone for long. Talk incessantly about yourself. If you have an idea while the other person is talking, don't wait for him or her to finish: bust right in and interrupt in the middle of a sentence."
"Forget yourself by becoming interested in others. Do every day a good deed that will put a smile of joy on someone's face."
"Tell the audience what you're going to say, say it; then tell them what you've said."
"The world is filled with interesting things to do. Don't lead a dull life in such a thrilling world."
"Don't ask a man what is important to him. Watch how he spends his time"
"The sure-thing boat never gets far from shore."
"If you can be kind and considerate for one day, then you can be for another. It won't cost you a penny in the world. Begin today."
"90% of all management problems are caused by miscommunication."
"Improving yourself is a lot more profitable than trying to improve others."
"Praise is like sunlight to the warm human spirit; we cannot flower and grow without it. And yet, while most of us are only too ready to apply to others the cold wind of criticism, we are somehow reluctant to give our fellow the warm sunshine of praise."