"The wise realize that some things are within their control, and most things are not. They learn early on to distinguish between what they can and can't regulate."
Philosopher
Epictetus was a Stoic philosopher known for his teachings on control and personal freedom, significantly influencing modern thought on resilience.
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"The wise realize that some things are within their control, and most things are not. They learn early on to distinguish between what they can and can't regulate."
"Whoever does not regard what he has as most ample wealth, is unhappy, though he be master of the world."
"Cowardice, the dread of what will happen."
"Whatever you would make habitual, practice it; and if you would not make a thing habitual, do not practice it, but accustom yourself to something else."
"Wherever any one is against his will, that is to him a prison."
"When you close your doors, and make darkness within, remember never to say that you are alone, for you are not alone; nay, God is within, and your genius is within. And what need have they of light to see what you are doing?"
"You ought to choose both physician and friend, not the most agreeable, but the most useful."
"Act your part with honor."
"To know that you do not know and to be willing to admit that you do not know without sheepishly apologizing is real strength and sets the stage for learning and progress in any endeavor."
"Men are disturbed not by the things that happen, but by their opinion of the things that happen."
"Never say about anything, "I have lost it," but only "I have given it back." Is your child dead? It has been given back. Is your wife dead? She has been returned."
"If someone irritates you, it is only your own response that is irritating you. Therefore, when anyone seems to be provoking you, remember that it is only your judgment of the incident that provokes you. -"
"Remember that you ought to behave in life as you would at a banquet. As something is being passed around it comes to you; stretch out your hand, take a portion of it politely. It passes on; do not detain it. Or it has not come to you yet; do not project your desire to meet it, but wait until it comes in front of you. So act toward children, so toward a wife, so toward office, so toward wealth."
"He is free who lives as he wishes to live; who is neither subject to compulsion nor to hindrance, nor to force; whose movements to action are not impeded, whose desires attain their purpose, and who does not fall into that which he would avoid."
"Practice yourself, for heaven's sake, in little things, and thence proceed to greater."
"When any person treats you ill or speaks ill of you, remember that he does this or says this because he thinks it is his duty. It is not possible, then, for him to follow that which seems right to you, but that which seems right to himself."
"What hurts this person is not the occurrence itself, for another person might not feel oppressed by this situation at all. What is hurting this person is the response he or she has uncritically adopted. It is not a demonstration of kindness or friendship to the people we care about to join them in indulging in wrongheaded, negative feelings."
"If a person had delivered up your body to some passer-by, you would certainly be angry. And do you feel no shame in delivering up your own mind to any reviler, to be disconcerted and confounded?"
"You may be always victorious if you will never enter into any contest where the issue does not wholly depend upon yourself."
"Unless we place our religion and our treasure in the same thing, religion will always be sacrificed."