“We are repeatedly left, in other words, with no further focus than ourselves, a source from which self-pity naturally flows. Each time this happens I am struck again by the permanent impassibility of the divide. Some people who have lost a husband or a wife report feeling that person's presence, receiving that person's advice. Some report actual sightings, what Freud described in "Mourning and Melancholia" as "a clinging to the object through the medium of a hallucinatory wishful psychosis." Others describe not a visible apparition but just a "very strongly felt presence."”
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Grieving Quotes — page 61 of 132
“The burden of suffering seems a tombstone hung about our necks, while in reality it is only the weight which is necessary to keep down the diver while he is hunting for pearls.”
“I have spent all my life with dance and being a dancer. It's permitting life to use you in a very intense way. Sometimes it is not pleasant. Sometimes it is fearful. But nevertheless it is inevitable.”
“A good bathe when you really need it can get you over almost anything.”
“Nay if even in the house of Hades the dead forget their dead, yet will I even there be mindful of my dear comrade.”
“Like a girl, a baby running after her mother, begging to be picked up, and she tugs on her skirts, holding her back as she tries to hurry off—all tears, fawning up at her, till she takes her in her arms… That’s how you look, Patroclus, streaming live tears.”
“Forgiveness is not an occasional act. It is a permanent attitude. That which I was not but could have been. That which I would have done but did not do. Can I find the fortitude to remember in truth,to understand, to submit, to forgive and to be free to move on in time?”
“We are missing Michael. But we do know we had him, and we are the world.”
“learning 's a gift, even when "pain" ,s your teacher!”
“You just watch somebody you love slowly, slowly disappear and go away.”
“Because whatever I feel inside, it has a place to go. It just saves me over and over and over again.”
“Forgiveness is the only way to heal”
“Grieve and mourn for yourself not once or twice, but again and again.”
“Take it slowly. The deepest resentments are wrapped up in a lot of hurt and pain. We think we're protecting ourselves by not forgiving. Acknowledge that and go easy on yourself. Forgiveness means that you've decided not to let it keep festering inside even if it only comes up once in awhile. Forgiveness is a powerful yet challenging tool that will support and honor you, even in the most extreme circumstances.”
“I used to have two double espressos a day. I gave that up, had headaches for five days but now I'm feeling great.”
“I am ready to be healed. I am willing to forgive. All is well.”
“I will no longer mutilate and destroy myself in order to find a secret behind the ruins.”
“A funeral is not death, any more than baptism is birth or marriage union. All three are the clumsy devices, coming now too late, now too early, by which Society would register the quick motions of man.”
“The man who had died looked nakedly on life, and saw a vast resoluteness everywhere flinging itself up in stormy or subtle wave-crests.... always the man who had died saw not the bird alone, but the short, sharp wave of life of which the bird was the crest.”
“Forgiving and being forgiven are two names for the same thing. The important thing is that a discord has been resolved.”